Pride and hope

We were pressed in tight together in the warm wind and light sporadic rain, rows of sweaty people with no personal space, the occasional brush of skin or the feel of breath as we reached our hands high, grooving to the music and hollering or whistling as the rainbow colored floats passed in the parade, [...]

Christ in the wool shop

Tuesday morning, I woke up to oppressive drizzle, both within and without. I got the preliminary UMC news Monday evening. Most of those around me say they inwardly knew that the United Methodist special conference on LGBTQ+ inclusion would end in a reaffirmation of the so-called traditionalist plan, but now with penalties for ordination boards [...]

On having shame and being shameless

"I'm ready to be shameless about..." I sat in the dark balcony of the church last week, listening to Nadia Bolz-Weber speak about sexuality and turning the card with those words over in my hand. Just like there are "humble-brags," I wonder if there are "honorable-shames" - the things it's sexy to feel shame about [...]

Of burning bushes and the fires of hell

When I first came out as bisexual, I asked the only gay friend I knew for sure was gay to meet me at a bookstore cafe so we could talk. He had just recently preached in our little ecumenical faith community on the text from Galatians that says "there is neither Jew nor Greek, slave [...]

Getting honest

"Damage is done... by the insistence on a fantasy version of heterosexual marriage as the solitary ideal, when the facts of the situation are that an enormous number of 'sanctioned' unions are a framework for violence and human destructiveness on a disturbing scale: sexual union is not delivered from moral danger and ambiguity by satisfying [...]

Liturgy and Sexuality: The Lord Be With You

"The Lord be with you." "And also with you." These words are a beginning. These words in the liturgy gather us to attention, and prepare us for an encounter. Sometimes spoken at the beginning of worship to quiet a room before prayer, they're most well-known as the opening words of the Eucharistic liturgy. I was [...]

Asking better questions about sex

I want to come back to the post about intuitive sexuality from a week or so ago. For me, the questions about sexuality and bodies are truly questions. I'm in progress. I have some hunches, some leanings, and a few things I think I can say with confidence about where I stand. But much of [...]