Mercy for the pain

  Sometimes we talk as if changing our views, coming to new understandings, is a cognitive exercise, a battle of aligning our mind with the work of justice. We didn't know things, and now we know things - knowledge at the center. But deconstruction is the stuff of guts. Not like "having the guts to [...]

Christ in the wool shop

Tuesday morning, I woke up to oppressive drizzle, both within and without. I got the preliminary UMC news Monday evening. Most of those around me say they inwardly knew that the United Methodist special conference on LGBTQ+ inclusion would end in a reaffirmation of the so-called traditionalist plan, but now with penalties for ordination boards [...]

Of burning bushes and the fires of hell

When I first came out as bisexual, I asked the only gay friend I knew for sure was gay to meet me at a bookstore cafe so we could talk. He had just recently preached in our little ecumenical faith community on the text from Galatians that says "there is neither Jew nor Greek, slave [...]

Getting honest

"Damage is done... by the insistence on a fantasy version of heterosexual marriage as the solitary ideal, when the facts of the situation are that an enormous number of 'sanctioned' unions are a framework for violence and human destructiveness on a disturbing scale: sexual union is not delivered from moral danger and ambiguity by satisfying [...]

Liturgy and Sexuality: The Lord Be With You

"The Lord be with you." "And also with you." These words are a beginning. These words in the liturgy gather us to attention, and prepare us for an encounter. Sometimes spoken at the beginning of worship to quiet a room before prayer, they're most well-known as the opening words of the Eucharistic liturgy. I was [...]

Asking better questions about sex

I want to come back to the post about intuitive sexuality from a week or so ago. For me, the questions about sexuality and bodies are truly questions. I'm in progress. I have some hunches, some leanings, and a few things I think I can say with confidence about where I stand. But much of [...]

The work that is yours to do

I was writing to you yesterday, the post about wedding music, and in the aftermath, honestly battling with myself over it - not because I regret anything I said, and not because I've changed my mind, or any of that. More, it's that as time goes by, and maybe as I get older, or the [...]